Impossible backlog on tiny country lanes causing accidents, damage to property and huge delays

We live on a very very small rural cul-de-sac between Maidstone and Headcorn. Operation Brock begins at the junction we leave to come off main roads (near Leeds castle) onto the single track lanes to get home - there are no alternative routes and the roads are only wide enough for one car. We have started getting lorries, caravans, trucks and all sorts trying to bypass the motorway by coming via the lanes, their sat Nav doesn't tell you it's not suitable and there are no signs saying max load. We have been stuck on those lanes more and more, we once spent 2 hours there while a lorry got stuck and no one would reverse. I see damage to properties as people drive onto their gardens to get past each other, I've seen physical fights where people lose their tempers.. I had 4 kids in my car when a lorry driver called me an "f...ING c..t" because I asked him to reverse to a layby to let us pass. I also had a van deliberately block the road for 20 minutes when I was trying to take my kids to school and he was laughing and shouting "this is so worth it" which made me cry. The impact is huge. We are late for school, late for work (I work for a Hospice), we use tonnes more diesel that we can't afford sitting in jams. The pollution us terrible and it's ruining the very reason we moved to the rural area - for a quiet and green life. This has to stop, it's shameful that the government are passing this problem onto everyday people who are helpless to improve their quality of life.